September 19, 2015

Grubbs ‘n Critters Monthly Feature #4 in World of Moms: Adults Should Never Say Sorry

Category: Guest Blogger

Do you apologise to your kids?

No, wait. let me rephrase that: Do you find it hard and really difficult to apologise or utter the words, “I’m sorry”, to your child, even though you know you are in the wrong?

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If you are in the “Yes” camp, then you might find this month’s feature in World of Moms a pretty interesting read (or not!). If you are in the “No” camp, then are in a great shape – but do read it anyway, just for perspective. Or just to give me a boost because I’ve been featured! 

Here’s an excerpt:

“I’m sorry.”

2 simple words, so very hard to say. Not saying it can be empowering. Refusing to say it is a power trip that heightens a sense of superiority.

It wasn’t done.  There was no reason to. Adults just don’t need to apologise. Period.
 
And if by the slightest chance they had to, it was mostly delivered without any conviction that they were truly sorry; otherwise, they’ll just have to convince you, that you, the child, were in the wrong.  They are older and the wiser ones, pegged by the virtue of how much longer they have experienced life before the child was born. No questions asked, no questioning of authority.  It was a code of conduct.

Hop on over to World of Moms to continue reading my featured post: Adults Should Never Say Sorry

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  1. I’m glad you decided to break this tradition. I think children need for adults to acknowledge their mistakes; it models how to apologize and helps them learn mistakes aren’t the end of the world. I do apologize to my daughter when I’m harsh or unfair to her. I also make a point to say please and thank you when I want her to help me. She’ll learn how to behave with kindness and respect by watching me behave that way to her (and others as well).
    Visiting from Weekend Blog Share.

    • Please and thank you are such important words! It’s true children needs to know that. And god knows the mistakes we adults make, only to be copied by our own children. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment, Alexis! 🙂

  2. I think we should apologize. Our kids need to learn that we, as adults and parents can make mistakes as well and that we do acknowledge those mistakes and apologize if we are aware of them. It teaches them a very important lesson. First of all we all make mistakes. Second it’s okay to make mistake and third of all when we make mistakes we apologize.

    • Oh yes! Totally. Very important lesson. I learnt it the hard way! Thanks for dropping by, Sandra! 🙂

  3. Food for thought. Everyone makes mistakes.

  4. I have apologized, and needed to, many times.

  5. Sue

    Do you remember the book and film “Love Story” from the 1970s? One of its best known lines was “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” I’ve always thought it was exactly the opposite. Love means always having to say you’re sorry. Prior to reading this post I hadn’t realized that this applies in the parent-child relationship but it so clearly does!

    • I haven’t read or saw the movie and I wonder how many subscribe to that lines. With parent-child, I feel that being able to say sorry goes way deeper, and so important to be able to utter those hard words; only because adults do make mistakes too.So happy to know that the post had made an impression on you. Thank you for dropping me your comments, Sue! 🙂

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